Social Anxiety Mailing List June 2013
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Therapy Group Information, Setbacks Are A Sign Of Progress, Questions & Answers with Dr. Richards
The International Group scheduled for July 22nd - August 10th, 2013 is now full.
I would like to give a “proactivity report," as Dr. Richards calls it, about the progress I am making against social anxiety.
I am doing well. I have experienced a lot of fun moments in my life in the past few months. Life is full of these moments every day, we just have to accept them.
I have started to dance again. Now I am a "social dancing" addict. In the past I was a "social anxiety" addict. What a wonderful difference!
Now, I find myself frequently interacting in a calm way in social situations that would have created a lot of anxious thoughts/ feelings in the past.
Then, I say to myself, "Hmmm, something is different here; what is happening to me? Where is the irrational, uncomfortable fear of the past? Is this a SA trick? Is this really happening or am I dreaming?"
I still have some old, automatic, negative thoughts in my mind. But I am really not worried about them. I know that they will continue to get smaller and smaller until they disappear (just as I have already done
with lots of other ANTs).
I am looking for a job. I've already had one job interview and survived. I think I made a good impression with the company because they want me to travel to another office in another country to be interviewed by their team there. I have scheduled the interview for next month.
I have also started studying for my psychology exams that are scheduled for mid-June. This involves a lot of work, but I don't mind. I have already learned to do my best and always be happy with that, no matter
how far I reach or how many exams I pass.
Besides everything else, I make sure to allow some time for myself every day. This "me" time is the time of the day that I enjoy the most so I do not like to miss it.
I’d like to see other proactivity reports on the mailing list.
I just got done doing a circle of death in a conference room with 14 other people. Whew! It’s still not my favorite activity, but I did fine. I remembered to slow down and believe I sounded confident and relaxed.
We head out for lunch soon... a group of my co-workers and the client, so this gives me an opportunity to practice my slowing down, focusing externally, and "small talk is small talk because it’s small." I know I can handle this.
I thought it was interesting to see how many people were visibly nervous when they had to introduce themselves. There were a lot of red faces. It puts everything into perspective when I see this. Everyone gets nervous and it is OK. It does not have to be viewed as a negative thing to fight against.
You guys know all this, but it just struck me again when I was in the meeting, so I thought I would share it with you.
***The "Overcoming Social Anxiety" Audio Series is now completely digital, so this will save you time and money. It will be especially helpful to our international friends.
**We have also added an Installment Payment option on the audio series page for those who want to pay that way. Our goal is to reach as many people as possible with this therapy.
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Social Anxiety CBT Groups Around The World
Go to the CBT Groups Operating page. These groups are proactive and structured. All of them use the "Overcoming Social Anxiety" audio series as a foundation for overcoming social anxiety.
Being Myself: Self Statements for Social Anxiety
Copyright © 2013, The Social Anxiety Institute, Inc.
Thomas A. Richards, Ph.D., Psychologist/Director, SAI
Matthew Whitley, Practice Manager
Justin Bashore, Aaron O'Banion, SAI Staff