Improving Our Self-Talk
While someone else may have started our automatic negative thinking, it is now a part of us and we are the only ones who can do anything about it. Now that these belief systems are part of our daily thinking process, do you realize that you are recycling irrational things about yourself over and over and over again? Then, are you surprised when we "believe" these things even more strongly? Our self-talk needs to change. You can't get better if you keep putting yourself down and telling yourself you can't do things.
Why should you let your own thoughts hurt you? Why do continue to recycle these negative beliefs about yourself when they aren't even true? Anxiety causes us to not recognize the things we do every day that keep us stuck in anxiety. Realizing what is really happening is a necessary part of getting better.
Why should any of us be hurting ourselves? There's reasons why we have social anxiety and there are reasons why we get stuck in it. Getting out of it and over it involves doing therapy that allows us to see things rationally. Why should I be hurting myself anyway?